Strangely enough--Sometimes, the wrong choices will bring us to the right places :)

Making the wrong choice is something most of us are terrified of doing. Sometimes we are so afraid that we will choose wrongly, that we procrastinate endlessly to avoid choosing at all. Even not choosing is a choice though, and in the grand scheme of things there is no such thing as a bad choice. Even a choice that ends up working out differently than you might have hoped can bring many opportunities for growth and learning.

The only wrong choice is to cling steadfastly to a situation that is causing you pain. Refusing to let go of a miserable situation not only makes you unhappy, but it blocks you from finding positive new opportunities.

Whatever your fears and beliefs may be, if you are in a situation that is causing you pain and unhappiness, then staying is not the choice of your higher self. If it feels wrong, that’s because it is. While a certain amount of discomfort is fine and necessary in learning to take chances and to grow, serious emotional suffering is a sign that all is not well.

With physical exercise, you can expect to feel a little sore as you push your fitness level to the limit. If your exercise regime is causing intense pain, though, you are doing something wrong. The same goes for life choices. There is nothing wrong with feeling that you are out of your comfort zone as you explore new opportunities and seek growth and advancement. But, if your choices and circumstances are causing you extreme distress, you really need to question your reasons for sticking with them.

There are many reasons that people stay in situations that cause them distress, and most of these reasons are based on fear. These fears can range from beliefs that you don’t deserve to be happy or that it is not possible to be happy, fear of change and the unknown, and a feeling that it is better to have something, even something painful, rather than nothing. It is scary to step into a void. Most people do everything within their power to avoid a feeling of emptiness, but it is only by becoming empty that we can receive the miracles of life.

Sometimes people stay in a bad situation because they feel that they have invested so much time, energy, emotion, and that by walking away, they would be ‘losing’ their investment. Energy can never be lost. Anything that you have put your heart and soul into will undoubtedly have given you much in terms of growth and learning. I am grateful for the many experiences I have had- even the painful ones. It is often from pain that we learn the most.

However, to stay trapped in a situation that you have come to realize is not healthy, and is hurting you, is a bad choice. However difficult and painful it will be to walk away, it will certainly be more painful to stay.

Emotional pain is the message of your higher self telling you that something is wrong. Listen to the message, and look within yourself for the courage to break free.

You do deserve to be happy, happiness is possible, and life and love don’t need to cause you pain. There is no wrong choice in life, but there are certainly some choices that have much more happiness to offer.


Choose happiness!

come to think of it,,,,woman's intuition :)

I believe women live in their own pocket of time. As nurturer's of the earth, women have a way of transcending their senses. As earth nurturer's they do not freely follow the road of logic. Instead they float through life's curves by their hunches. Utilizing the appearance of common sense, the female life scientist translates and conceptualizes their world very differently. Mathematical formulas and philosophical analogies don't apply to their world at hand. 

Women live in an emotional dimension. They are powerfully tapped into their hunches.               A woman's intuition is her inner guidance. The skill of reading herself has been an attribute of women for centuries. Emotionally travel-prone women travel their hunches, stopping at every gut feeling they have. Their sensitivity to their common sense and to the environment that surrounds them makes them the ultimate life traveler. A woman's ability to tap into her higher wisdom gives her the ability to look inward to her understanding of the world that encompasses her. 

Therefore, a woman doesn't play with her hunches and emotions. She trusts them. Interestingly, a woman's intuition is uncannily accurate. A mind oasis of meaning and significance, a woman's intuition is the magical sensitivity that makes her warmhearted by nature.

Here are ways a I could think of  to tap into our intuition.

1. Plunge into your feelings. Believe in them. When you feel a certain way stop and give thought to how you are feeling.

2. Express your inner feelings to others. Your hunches should not be kept a secret.

3. Freedom of self-expression is essential. Explore laughter, explore tears, be emotional. Keeping feelings inside inhibits emotional experience.

4. Know that you are a mystery. Accept that you can't figure yourself out!

5. Your emotions are the breadcrumbs to your essence. Follow them diligently and they will lead you to who you are...someday.

6. Never second-guess yourself. Each day you must climb the ladder of inner wisdom. At first the steps may seem rickety, but as your belief in yourself firms up, you will soon be able to climb the ladder of inner wisdom without grabbing on to the guardrail of life.

7. Listen to your hunches in the workplace place, as well as in your personal life. Work values can be enhanced by gut feelings. The best business ideas have been known to come from a hunch.

8. Never discredit yourself. A deep understanding of your feelings is essential. You cannot tap into your hunches if you veer off the road of self-respect. Become acquainted with the learner in you. Remember, the learner in you is the scholar. It is the learner within us that gives us character and helps us reach for impossible obstacles.

Just open your door :)

thank you LORD,,,,

There are tons and tons and even trillion things to thank the Lord for. When we cease to forget at times, where the Lord only asks us a simple Thank You and nothing else, nothing more. I would always, and religiously thank the Lord even for the simplest things in life that comes in my way. May it be good or bad, it's always a test of faith.

As always he gives us the unconditional love that nobody or no one else could give. It's always his will and his will be done.

So in every way that we can just give thanks for he is good and he is God.



Dear father, lord, and savior hear my prayer. 

Quiet my heart and mind so I may accept your glorious blessings.

Dear Lord I Love you soo much, because of you I have all the blessings in life that would make anybody absolutely full and complete. Dear lord you know my needs and wants and I know that I have to suffer and go through trials in life to understand my faith.

 Please fill my soul and life with the ability to do miraculous things in your name, to change this world that is corrupted in every way.

Thank you for my life, family, friends, and successes. I ask these things in your name.

Amen 

:)

Friendship

don't let mistakes ruin a friendship, put them behind you and move on, and let your friendship get stronger ;)

I get busy on a Friday schedule,,, juggling alternate classes from 7:30 am til 5 pm (teaching of course from Classical Ballet to Hip-hop then to Cheer Leading) . Even with the tiring classes, one friday stood to test a friendship that should have been long-gone fixed up, mended and should have moved-on with the pain that has caused them.

It is really hard when you get into a situation where you do not know who to blame unless you know the "REAL" thing. It was hard for me to judge at first but judging was out of the issue, it is merely and it should , be opening up, being honest and humble enough to commit your mistakes, and gain forgiveness with each other.

This is a true test of maturity in friendship, when you hinder on bowing down with your mistakes no amount closure between the two is going to happen at all, because one is still sufferring from grief and pain. In any relationship there will always be a TEST, there will always be that point where you maturity will be tested. You do not make another mistake as a form of revenge when both of you are hurting.

Put everything behind you, when you REALLY VALUE the relationship, the friendship, put everything else, the hurtful words, the painful past situation and MOVE ON TOGETHER to a new chapter. 

Nobody's perfect, no relationship is perfect, may it be marriage, friendship or working relationship that is why there will always be structures of trials to deal with, to test us. 

In the end, you value more each other, you learn to talk more and act more of what happened and growing together making you both grow stronger together.

And as for you, I am here and always will be here no matter what because I value, treasure and LOVE what we have and I know we still have.

What Every Woman Should Have

"A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ....

enough money within her control to move out

and rent a place of her own even if she never wants

to or needs to...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ....

something perfect to wear if the employer or date of her

dreams wants to see her in an hour...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ...

a youth she's content to leave behind....

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ....

a past juicy enough that she's looking forward to

retelling it in her old age....

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE .....

a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black

lace bra...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ....

one friend who always makes her laugh... and one who

lets her cry...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ....

a good piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone

else in her family...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ....

eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems, and a

recipe for a meal that will make her guests feel honored...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ....

a feeling of control over her destiny...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

how to fall in love without losing herself..

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

HOW TO QUIT A JOB,

BREAK UP WITH A LOVER,

AND CONFRONT A FRIEND WITHOUT RUINING THE FRIENDSHIP...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

when to try harder... and WHEN TO WALK AWAY...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

that she can't change the length of her calves,

the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents..

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

that her childhood may not have been perfect...but it's over...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

what she would and wouldn't do for love or more...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

how to live alone... even if she doesn't like it...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

whom she can trust,

whom she can't,

and why she shouldn't

take it personally...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

where to go...

be it to her best friend's kitchen table...

or a charming inn in the woods...

when her soul needs soothing...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

what she can and can't accomplish in a day...

a month...and a year..." 

— Pamela Redmond Satran

just to share :)

love as always :

“I will love you always. When this red hair is white, I will still love you. When the smooth softness of youth is replaced by the delicate softness of age, I will still want to touch your skin. When your face is full of the lines of every smile you have ever smiled, of every surprise I have seen flash through your eyes, when every tear you have ever cried has left its mark upon your face,I will treasure you all the more, because I was there to see it all. I will share your life with you, Meredith, and I will love you until the last breath leaves your body or mine.”
― Laurell K. Hamilton, A Lick of Frost

I was searching for relationship quotes (friendship) and I came across with this author of as Anita Bake:Vampire Hunter and amongst the other books. I get such pleasure out of seeing old lovebirds, and I observe closely to see what traits and behaviors might be the key to their relationship success.

 They keep up with the changes. When it comes to marriage, that can be risky. The most successful couples really take note of each other's changes. They do not assume their partner is the same person he or she was 20 years ago, even if there are many similarities. What's more, they take the time to learn their partner's goals, dreams and future plans. By keeping in touch with who their partner is at this moment — and looking ahead to who he might become — they secure a truly intimate relationship
 They know how to fight fairly. It's not that happy couples never argue. Most couples have disagreements. But in a mature relationship, power isn't defined by winning an argument or getting one's way. True power comes from knowing how to discuss differences fully and honestly. If you demean your partner when you disagree, and if, at the end of an argument, you do not feel stronger and more intimate than you did before you started — you are not building a stronger, more loving relationship. Successful couples know how to argue with class and dignity. They may disagree, but in the end, they end up understanding — and respecting — their differences.

 They find new ways to play. All the research on marital satisfaction shows that couples bond more closely when they do new, innovative activities — instead of getting stuck in the same rut they've been in for the past 25 years. Whether it is learning how to sculpt together, opening an inn, or simply helping each other create a healthier lifestyle, any kind of new, enjoyable pursuit can make a couple that feel younger and more in sync — and can invigorate their love.

Pray for those who have hurt you :)

I have come across with this post on my facebook account and it is very timely. The good Lord shows compassion to those who have been hurt physically and emotionally, and for those who are continually hurting may this inspire you to move on and look forward positively on life asking Lord as our source of strength and guidance.

The Lord is my shepherd,
I shall not want;
He makes me lie down in green pastures.
He leads me beside still waters;
He restores my soul.
He leads me in paths of righteousness
for His name's sake.

Even though I walk through the valley
of the shadow of death,
I fear no evil;
for You are with me;
Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me.

Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me
all the days of my life;
and I shall dwell in the house of the
Lord forever.

Psalm 23