Friendship

don't let mistakes ruin a friendship, put them behind you and move on, and let your friendship get stronger ;)

I get busy on a Friday schedule,,, juggling alternate classes from 7:30 am til 5 pm (teaching of course from Classical Ballet to Hip-hop then to Cheer Leading) . Even with the tiring classes, one friday stood to test a friendship that should have been long-gone fixed up, mended and should have moved-on with the pain that has caused them.

It is really hard when you get into a situation where you do not know who to blame unless you know the "REAL" thing. It was hard for me to judge at first but judging was out of the issue, it is merely and it should , be opening up, being honest and humble enough to commit your mistakes, and gain forgiveness with each other.

This is a true test of maturity in friendship, when you hinder on bowing down with your mistakes no amount closure between the two is going to happen at all, because one is still sufferring from grief and pain. In any relationship there will always be a TEST, there will always be that point where you maturity will be tested. You do not make another mistake as a form of revenge when both of you are hurting.

Put everything behind you, when you REALLY VALUE the relationship, the friendship, put everything else, the hurtful words, the painful past situation and MOVE ON TOGETHER to a new chapter. 

Nobody's perfect, no relationship is perfect, may it be marriage, friendship or working relationship that is why there will always be structures of trials to deal with, to test us. 

In the end, you value more each other, you learn to talk more and act more of what happened and growing together making you both grow stronger together.

And as for you, I am here and always will be here no matter what because I value, treasure and LOVE what we have and I know we still have.

What Every Woman Should Have

"A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ....

enough money within her control to move out

and rent a place of her own even if she never wants

to or needs to...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ....

something perfect to wear if the employer or date of her

dreams wants to see her in an hour...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ...

a youth she's content to leave behind....

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ....

a past juicy enough that she's looking forward to

retelling it in her old age....

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE .....

a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black

lace bra...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ....

one friend who always makes her laugh... and one who

lets her cry...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ....

a good piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone

else in her family...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ....

eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems, and a

recipe for a meal that will make her guests feel honored...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ....

a feeling of control over her destiny...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

how to fall in love without losing herself..

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

HOW TO QUIT A JOB,

BREAK UP WITH A LOVER,

AND CONFRONT A FRIEND WITHOUT RUINING THE FRIENDSHIP...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

when to try harder... and WHEN TO WALK AWAY...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

that she can't change the length of her calves,

the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents..

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

that her childhood may not have been perfect...but it's over...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

what she would and wouldn't do for love or more...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

how to live alone... even if she doesn't like it...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

whom she can trust,

whom she can't,

and why she shouldn't

take it personally...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

where to go...

be it to her best friend's kitchen table...

or a charming inn in the woods...

when her soul needs soothing...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...

what she can and can't accomplish in a day...

a month...and a year..." 

— Pamela Redmond Satran

just to share :)

love as always :

“I will love you always. When this red hair is white, I will still love you. When the smooth softness of youth is replaced by the delicate softness of age, I will still want to touch your skin. When your face is full of the lines of every smile you have ever smiled, of every surprise I have seen flash through your eyes, when every tear you have ever cried has left its mark upon your face,I will treasure you all the more, because I was there to see it all. I will share your life with you, Meredith, and I will love you until the last breath leaves your body or mine.”
― Laurell K. Hamilton, A Lick of Frost

I was searching for relationship quotes (friendship) and I came across with this author of as Anita Bake:Vampire Hunter and amongst the other books. I get such pleasure out of seeing old lovebirds, and I observe closely to see what traits and behaviors might be the key to their relationship success.

 They keep up with the changes. When it comes to marriage, that can be risky. The most successful couples really take note of each other's changes. They do not assume their partner is the same person he or she was 20 years ago, even if there are many similarities. What's more, they take the time to learn their partner's goals, dreams and future plans. By keeping in touch with who their partner is at this moment — and looking ahead to who he might become — they secure a truly intimate relationship
 They know how to fight fairly. It's not that happy couples never argue. Most couples have disagreements. But in a mature relationship, power isn't defined by winning an argument or getting one's way. True power comes from knowing how to discuss differences fully and honestly. If you demean your partner when you disagree, and if, at the end of an argument, you do not feel stronger and more intimate than you did before you started — you are not building a stronger, more loving relationship. Successful couples know how to argue with class and dignity. They may disagree, but in the end, they end up understanding — and respecting — their differences.

 They find new ways to play. All the research on marital satisfaction shows that couples bond more closely when they do new, innovative activities — instead of getting stuck in the same rut they've been in for the past 25 years. Whether it is learning how to sculpt together, opening an inn, or simply helping each other create a healthier lifestyle, any kind of new, enjoyable pursuit can make a couple that feel younger and more in sync — and can invigorate their love.

Pray for those who have hurt you :)

I have come across with this post on my facebook account and it is very timely. The good Lord shows compassion to those who have been hurt physically and emotionally, and for those who are continually hurting may this inspire you to move on and look forward positively on life asking Lord as our source of strength and guidance.

The Lord is my shepherd,
I shall not want;
He makes me lie down in green pastures.
He leads me beside still waters;
He restores my soul.
He leads me in paths of righteousness
for His name's sake.

Even though I walk through the valley
of the shadow of death,
I fear no evil;
for You are with me;
Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me.

Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me
all the days of my life;
and I shall dwell in the house of the
Lord forever.

Psalm 23

and he is growing so fast :)

"The greatest guy I know looks me in the eyes and calls me Mommy!"

No amount of gold could ever compare, to the gift of love that my son shares. I've been blind and I couldn't see that all the love I've wanted is right here in front of me.

He gives reason to get through another day.

Maybe it's how he loves me in his special little way.

And when it gets hard for me to sleep at night....

He wraps his little arms around me and says God will make things right!

From sweet gentle touches to his bear hugs and a kiss...

He makes this hell on earth seem more like a peaceful bliss.

That great big smile and the twinkle in his eyes....

Every time I look at him it makes me want to cry.

But they're not tears of sorrow; they're tears of pride and joy....

To know that all the love in heaven is wrapped around my little boy

His turning 9 next week and I cannot help but cry every time I look at him, that no amount of satisfaction by just looking at him. Sometimes, I would ask the dear Lord to give me more strength just so I could give the world to him.

eat. pray. love.

I have come across just tonight watching the whole of Julia Robert's movie with the famous book of Elizabeth Gilbert's, Eat, Pray, Love

Finding your balance in life is not an easy thing to do, it may be so easy to say but so hard to take risk and to give in. What I've learned is that you learn to appreciate simple things in life that could you'll never know is and will be the major part of balance in your life.

But the greatest part of it all is Love, you take risk, you give all. It may be scary sometimes but it's always worth the try, if you loose in the end you know you did your best and you gave your all. :)

Here are some of the famous lines which I have come across and plan to meditate upon,,,,, :)


“If I love you, I will carry for you all your pain, I will assume for you all your debts (in every definition of the word), I will protect you from your own insecurity, I will protect upon you all sorts of good qualities that you have never actually cultivated in yourself and I will buy Christmas presents for your entire family. I will give you the sun and the rain, and if they are not available, I will give you a sun check and a rain check. I will give you all this and more, until I get so exhausted and depleted that the only way I can recover my energy is by becoming infatuated with someone else.”
― Elizabeth Gilbert


“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.

A true soul mate is probably the most important person you'll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave.

A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master...”
― Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love


“I’m here. I love you. I don’t care if you need to stay up crying all night long, I will stay with you. There’s nothing you can ever do to lose my love. I will protect you until you die, and after your death I will still protect you. I am stronger than Depression and I am braver than Loneliness and nothing will ever exhaust me.”
― Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love


“Happiness is the consequence of personal effort. You fight for it, strive for it, insist upon it, and sometimes even travel around the world looking for it. You have to participate relentlessly in the manifestations of your own blessings. And once you have achieved a state of happiness, you must never become lax about maintaining it. You must make a mighty effort to keep swimming upward into that happiness forever, to stay afloat on top of it.”
― Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love

and here is the most strucking one,,,

“If I love you, I will carry for you all your pain, I will assume for you all your debts (in every definition of the word), I will protect you from your own insecurity, I will protect upon you all sorts of good qualities that you have never actually cultivated in yourself and I will buy Christmas presents for your entire family. I will give you the sun and the rain, and if they are not available, I will give you a sun check and a rain check. I will give you all this and more, until I get so exhausted and depleted that the only way I can recover my energy is by becoming infatuated with someone else.”
― Elizabeth Gilbert

I WON'T GIVE UP ON US!!!

When I look into your eyes
It's like watching the night sky
Or a beautiful sunrise
Well, there's so much they hold
And just like them old stars
I see that you've come so far
To be right where you are
How old is your soul?

Well, I won't give up on us
Even if the skies get rough
I'm giving you all my love
I'm still looking up

And when you're needing your space
To do some navigating
I'll be here patiently waiting
To see what you find

'Cause even the stars they burn
Some even fall to the earth
We've got a lot to learn
God knows we're worth it
No, I won't give up

I don't wanna be someone who walks away so easily
I'm here to stay and make the difference that I can make
Our differences they do a lot to teach us how to use
The tools and gifts we got yeah, we got a lot at stake
And in the end, you're still my friend at least we did intend
For us to work we didn't break, we didn't burn
We had to learn how to bend without the world caving in
I had to learn what I've got, and what I'm not
And who I am

I won't give up on us
Even if the skies get rough
I'm giving you all my love
I'm still looking up
Still looking up.

I won't give up on us (no I'm not giving up)
God knows I'm tough enough (I am tough, I am loved)
We've got a lot to learn (we're alive, we are loved)
God knows we're worth it (and we're worth it)

I won't give up on us
Even if the skies get rough
I'm giving you all my love
I'm still looking up